{"id":258,"date":"2023-08-22T01:00:48","date_gmt":"2023-08-21T22:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/claritycounseling.co.ke\/?p=258"},"modified":"2023-08-22T01:00:48","modified_gmt":"2023-08-21T22:00:48","slug":"5-signs-of-emotional-codependency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pcbuilds.site\/sp\/5-signs-of-emotional-codependency\/","title":{"rendered":"Emotional Codependency: 5 Signs of Codependency"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-259\" src=\"http:\/\/www.pcbuilds.site\/sp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/blog23-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1280\" height=\"640\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<h1><strong>Emotional Codependency: 5 Signs of Codependency<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is a fact that human beings need to be in healthy relationships to thrive. People rely on each other for emotional, financial, physical, and psychological support. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, the relationship becomes unhealthy when people rely on each other for these needs, and one person becomes emotionally codependent in the process. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional codependency, sometimes called <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship addiction<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, occurs when you become excessively obsessed and dependent on another person to meet your emotional needs. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also characterized by a willingness to sacrifice your needs and wants to please the other person to receive validation and feel loved. Codependency can occur in various relationships, including:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romantic relationships<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Family relationships, e.g. parent-child<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Close friendships<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Professional relationships, e.g. manager-employee<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional codependency in adulthood is often linked to growing up in a stressful family environment or experiencing <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pcbuilds.site\/sp\/why-childhood-trauma-could-be-causing-your-psychological-struggles\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">childhood trauma<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This article will explore five signs to help you assess whether you are emotionally codependent on the close people around you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1- Your Self-Worth Depends on the Other Person\u2019s Approval<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imagine a scenario where a person doesn\u2019t feel good about themselves until someone tells them how important they are. If you constantly seek approval or validation from your spouse, boy\/girlfriend, child, parent, or close friend, you could be emotionally codependent on them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Letting another person determine your self-worth means your self-perception and even your mood rely heavily on if they praise or critique you. Being in this position leaves you vulnerable to being taken advantage of and having an unstable <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/click-here-happiness\/202109\/what-is-self-concept-and-why-does-it-matter\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-concept<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2- You Put Other People\u2019s Needs Before Yours<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having a desire to be there for those you care about is commendable. But if caring for others leads to neglecting your needs, that could be a sign you are emotionally codependent on them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, Zawadi and Ken have been in a two-year relationship. Zawadi often cancels her plans with friends at the last minute to accommodate Ken\u2019s plans. She also sacrifices enjoying her hobbies just to ensure Ken is happy and all his requests are met. Afterward, Ken would praise her but of late, he wants her to do more to receive additional praise. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this scenario, Zawadi is in an unhealthy relationship because she keeps giving, and Ken keeps taking from her and is now taking advantage of her emotional needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3- You Fear Being Alone<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you fear being alone and constantly need to have people around you too, it could be an indication that you rely on others to meet your emotional needs. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The fear of being alone may be traced back to when you did not receive validation or affirmation from your parents or guardians. Now, as an adult, you have an endless need to have others:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reassure you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell you that you matter<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Appreciate you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Encourage you <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This learned behavior from childhood robs you of the innate ability you have to provide for yourself the same care and encouragement you receive from others. <\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4- You have Difficulty Setting Boundaries<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a healthy relationship, both parties must set fair rules on how things should be done and how to treat each other. If you have difficulty expressing your preferences because you fear upsetting the other person, you could be in an emotionally dependent relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Setting boundaries creates a healthy balance between giving and receiving, but emotional codependency often blurs these boundaries. Difficulty setting boundaries can also occur if you experienced childhood trauma that involved a violation of personal boundaries, such as physical or sexual abuse. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The fear of speaking out because you may be perceived as selfish often leaves you emotionally stretched and vulnerable. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Related: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pcbuilds.site\/sp\/the-power-of-personal-responsibility-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Power Of Personal Responsibility In Relationships<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5- You Feel Responsible for Other People&#8217;s Emotions<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel you have a duty to keep people around you happy? Or do you believe your actions determine your spouse\u2019s, parent\u2019s, child\u2019s, or partner&#8217;s happiness? If so, you could be emotionally codependent on them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is tiring to feel like you have to make everyone happy by fixing their problems or going the extra mile to do favors for them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ironically, believing you are responsible for keeping another person happy can give you a sense of control and validation and may soothe your insecurities for a short period. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the long run, it leaves you feeling exhausted because you can never perform all tasks perfectly to keep people happy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We Can Help You Overcome Emotional Codependency<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At Clarity Counseling Centre, we have qualified codependency therapists in Nairobi who can provide you with the tools and insights you need to overcome emotional co-dependency. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Through our counseling sessions, our codependency therapists in Nairobi uncover the underlying causes of codependency, learn better ways to cope, and develop strategies to help you communicate your boundaries to others. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pcbuilds.site\/sp\/?page_id=1675&#038;preview=true\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Schedule<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> your first session with us today. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you feeling emotionally exhausted in a relationship with someone you care about? 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